12.03.2009
I don`t understand why the goverment is soooo hesitant and reluctant to help out! We traveled to Kristiansand last Wednesday to meet with the nurses and my dads boss, and everyone was very impressed with what me& my brother had planned. I could tell they were afraid we would stick him in an old peoples home just to get him closer, but then they realized we had found a place that specializes in younger people with alzheimers/dementia and I could tell they really relaxed after that. We had a long talk about how he`s doing at work (not at all) and in everyday life (not so much) and all agreed that the nurses would contact the apropriate office to start the move. I was so releifed!
Two days later my phone rang..it was the nurse in charge of my dad. She told me the goverment in Kristiansand would not help us apply for this home because they do not want to cover the cost. So now I will get all the paperwork sent to me, and then I have to apply on behalf of my Dad…
I just don`t get it! They already spend money on taking care of him down there. Why on earth won`t they help us??? It seems insane to mee that I, a woman of 29, is left with the responsability to fight my way through the wilderness that is the Norvegian bureaucracy. I have no training and really no precondition to deal with this and it really scares me. What if he looses this place in that home because of me – if it takes me too long? I know for a fact he won`t have a job to go back to after christmas, they just fear for his safety there too much lately. And then what? he`ll just hang around all day by himself without anything to treally do?? No…I will not let that happen!
I wish I had someone to discuss this with..someone who`d been through it and knew what to do and who to call!
